Caitlin V – Make Her Squirt: The Female Ejaculation Blueprint

How to make a girl squirt (6 steps to female ejaculation)

If you want to give your woman the most intense, pleasurable, earth-shattering orgasm she’s ever had, keep reading.

Because while watching a woman squirt might look cool in porn videos… and while it’s a great way for men to SEE that she’s having an intense orgasm… the best reason to make a girl squirt is to give her sexual experiences she won’t be able to stop thinking about tomorrow.

She’ll be on cloud-9 all day.

She’ll tell all her friends you’re the best lover she’s ever had.

She won’t be able to stay away from you.

Because knowing how to make a woman squirt is also knowing how to lead her into the fold of earth-shattering sexual arousal and sustained pleasure.

1, Leaving a Lasting Impression as a Lover with Premature Ejaculation

Sometimes it’s hard to know how you stack up compared to her other lovers… It’s hard to know if you’re leaving a lasting impression, especially when so many lovers act like they can “take it or leave it”. This is all compounded if you have premature ejaculation.

Once you learn this skill and make your woman squirt, a lot of women are going to hit you up.

You don’t need to last a long time in order to blow her mind. You don’t need to last a long time in order to make her spray fluid across the room.

All you need is to know the 6 actionable steps I’m about to show you, so read on.

2, Making A Woman Squirt Isn’t Always Easy.

Giving her a squirting orgasm isn’t always easy. In fact, she might be convinced that she “can’t”.

What many couples don’t realize is that the vast majority of healthy women CAN achieve a massive fluid emission at time of orgasm. In other words, every woman is born with the equipment she needs to achieve female ejaculate.

This article provides ACTIONABLE, easy-to-follow steps that will show you the sexual stimulation she needs in order to achieve this glorious expulsion of fluid.

I’m not ONLY going to show you exactly how to make a woman squirt, but I’m going to give you the exact formula for how to be the best lover she’s ever had … Because what goes into achieving this extremely intense female orgasm has a lot to do with how to be amazing at sex in general. It means having a solid understanding of what women NEED in bed in order to be able to fully let go, relax, and experience deep pleasure.

3, The One Thing Women Need (And no, it’s not a big dick)

Sexy woman smiling in bed

If you want to make your girl squirt, you need to know the number one thing she needs. And that is to feel 100% safe, relaxed, and immersed in the sensations of her body (instead of being stuck in her head.) This article will show you how to help her get to that point.

Because her ability to enjoy sexual activity with you is not just physical. It’s mental as well. And because of this mental aspect of arousal, a lot of people don’t realize that the woman’s input is essential. If she doesn’t 100% love what’s happening, she’s not going to squirt. Straight up.

Even if you don’t get it right away, it’s SO MUCH FUN to keep trying. Which leads us to our first essential key to making your favorite female ejaculate: knowing how to get feedback from her while also keeping things sexy.

4, How to Get Feedback From Her While Keeping Things Sexy

We’ve already established that a main tenant of female sexuality is the need to first feel 100% relaxed. This way, she can fully connect to the deep pleasure that you’re looking to provide.

First, you need to set up an environment where she will feel completely relaxed (more on this in a bit…)

But then you have to ensure that she STAYS relaxed. Here’s the thing: many women feel gun-shy when it comes to asking a man to change a technique, or to not do something in bed. Many women want to protect their man’s feelings, and would rather be uncomfortable during sex than hurt her man’s feelings.

Which means that you need to make it as comfortable for her as possible to provide feedback. She needs to know that she’s not going to hurt your feelings and that the most important thing for you is to give her genuine pleasure. So how do you achieve a strong and clear feedback loop where she gets exactly what she wants? Through passive and active feedback.

5, Passive Feedback: Keying in on her Moans and Body Language

A man pleasuring a woman in bed
Women have “tells” that can let you know if she’s enjoying sex or not. A woman who is enjoying sex is:

• Breathing deeply (maybe even panting)
• Wet and open (Meaning she has TONS of vaginal lubrication, and her clitoris and vulva area is puffy and engorged.)
• Moaning and being loud.

On the flipside, a woman who really isn’t fully relaxed in pleasure is:

• Stiff (even her pelvic floor muscles will be stiff)
• Not breathing deeply (maybe not even breathing consistently at all)
• Quiet
• Closed and dry “down there”, with no natural lubrication.

Key into her body language, the sounds she’s making, and her breathing to know if she’s fully aroused or not (basically, to know whether she’s actually enjoying herself and experiencing pleasure.)

6, Active Feedback in Bed: Ask Her What She Likes

If she’s trying to get in the zone and live deep in her pleasure, she might not appreciate you asking “what do you want?” Asking her what she wants is the best way to get her out of her body and into her brain. Which we don’t want, especially since we want her to relax.

Give her an A/B test. Ask her “Which feels better, when I do this…. or when I do this?” This makes it easy for her to direct you on what feels good for her — without having to think about it. She will appreciate the fact that you’re actively caring about her pleasure, while not making assumptions on what she likes.

7, The Most Common Questions I Get About Making A Woman Squirt

Some couples worry that stimulating the female prostate is not great for her health. Will the vigorous sex required for g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation injure her somehow? Is it okay to be so aggressive with her vagina? Of course, couples need to listen to a woman’s body and draw back when there’s any pain (that’s not desired by the woman), but couples should know that they have the green light when it comes to this certain type of sexual stimulation.

In other words, squirting is hella healthy. Go forth and spray.

Since the squirting orgasm is such an intense way to experience sexual pleasure, it can give her a VERY strong sexual release. In fact, many women end up storing a lot of tension in their bodies, and building up a lot of stress just from living their lives. Giving her an intense squirting orgasm can be a WONDERFUL mental, physical, and emotional release for her. SO effective, in fact, that you shouldn’t be surprised if she has a strong emotional reaction after orgasm. She might laugh. She might cry. She might want to just snuggle you until she falls asleep. (More on this later…)

But make no mistake — if every woman had an intense squirting orgasm at least once a week, more women would be happier and healthier. I’m convinced.

8, THE 5 ESSENTIAL STEPS TO MAKING A WOMAN SQUIRT AND GIVING HER THE BEST ORGASM OF HER LIFE

1. Set the stage for success
2. Spend more time on foreplay
3. Know your G spot techniques
4. Sex Positions that help
5. After-orgasm care

9, SET THE STAGE

Set the stage by making sure that she can focus on ONLY her pleasure, and not have to worry about anything else. Trim and file down your fingernails. You don’t want to be scratching your lady that that index and middle finger. Trim your mustache. She wants to kiss YOU, not a walrus.

And finally, setting the stage means you need to communicate with her. She’s about to experience a TON of pleasure — so intensely that she might have never experienced anything so massively explosive before. She might feel insecure about the moans, grunts, and faces she makes when she’s high on pleasure. Make her feel comfortable and accepted. Let her know that ANY response she has is acceptable.

Take the pressure off and let go of expectation. Bringing her to a squirting orgasm isn’t about the orgasm itself — it’s about the super hot journey.

10, SPEND A LOT OF TIME ON FOREPLAY.

Foreplay might take as long as 45 minutes. The goal: to get her as wet and open as possible. In fact, think about how long it usually takes her to get fully aroused and orgasm. Triple that number. Spend way more time amping up the pleasure. It’ll pay off.

If you try to find her g-spot too early before she’s fully aroused, her g-spot won’t be fully erect, you won’t be able to find it, and you won’t be able to make her come.

So take time on foreplay. If you didn’t spend at least a half hour on foreplay, you PROBABLY didn’t give it enough time. When she’s wet and open, she’s ready to take you inside her. Not only is she relaxed, but if you get her to the point of BEGGING you to fuck her, she’ll be so into it that no distraction is going to snap her out of her pleasurable dream state.

Basically, you want to keep bringing her to the edge of orgasm and then stepping back to bring her RIGHT TO THE BRINK of orgasm. In each of these waves, you’re slowly heightening her pleasure so she’s juicy, dripping, and open before you even go for the gold.

Patience pays off, my dudes.

11, Where the heck is the g-spot and how do I know if I’ve found it?

When your woman is SUPER aroused, you’ll be able to stick your finger (Often a middle finger or two fingers) inside of her and feel a rough-textured ball about two- to three-inches in. This ball feels bumpy and rough, like the outside of an orange, and is about the size of a walnut.

I’m about to give you five techniques for stimulating the g-spot, but know also that some women simply like when PRESSURE is applied to their g-spot without any added stimulation. So you might want to try these techniques, but your woman might end up realizing that she merely likes pressure with no other stimulation.

Only one way to find out.

12, TECHNIQUES TO STIMULATING THE G-SPOT IN ORDER TO LEAD UP TO SQUIRTING

There are a few different ways to stimulate her g-spot that will feel REALLY AMAZING for her.

The “come hither” motion.

Put your finger inside of her, locate the g-spot, and gently pulse your finger back and forth in the “come hither” motion.

•  A gentle back and forth motion that I like to call “windshield wipers”
  Instead of pushing in and out on the g-spot, brush-stroke across it with your finger side to side.
• You can tap her g-spot with your finger that to her will feel like pulsing.
  I call this the “tap tap”.
• You can add steady pressure and a slow release, pressing your finger on her g-spot, slowly releasing, and repeating.
  She’ll probably let you know which ones she likes the best and which ones aren’t working for her. But in general, you’ll probably want to cycle through these techniques in combination, because you want to get her g-spot as aroused as possible before heading into trying to trigger the actual squirting orgasm. The longer you stimulate her g-spot, the more erect and juicy her g-spot is going to get. She’s going to be open, dripping wet, and pushing her pubic bone closer to you. This is how you know it’s time for the big guns.
• The Stiff Arm
  Lube up your middle and ring finger, slide those fingers inside of her, and stimulate her g-spot until she’s extremely aroused.

13. SEX POSITIONS THAT HELP HER SQUIRT

Keep in mind, if she has a hard time releasing the skene’s gland with your finger and vibrators, she’s probably not going to be able to squirt during penetrative sex.

So how do you penetrate her g-spot with your penis? All you need is a shallow thrust that tilts forward (toward her belly button). So what positions can help you achieve this?

• Reverse Cowgirl
  Your woman can take full advantage of the depth of thrust while she’s able to pleasure her clit with a hand or sex toy.
• Spooning
  I absolutely LOVE this position, because not only does this position help you last longer in bed, but it also facilitates the perfect position to hit her g-spot AND she can play with her clit while you hit her g-spot at the same time. (Masturbation + sex = a damn good time for the ladies.)
• Doggie Style
  Once again, this position allows for deep thrusting and allows her the chance to use her fingers or vibrator to stimulate her clit. if you’re trying to last longer in bed and doggie style is too much for you, try lowered doggie style, where the woman lies on her tummy while the man enters her. This helps keep your thrust shallow enough to hit her g-spot.
• Girl on Top
  She has full control over depth and thrust. She can even grind her hips against your pelvic bone to give her pleasure on both the g-spot and clit.

14, AFTER ORGASM CARE: KEEP THE GOOD VIBES ROLLING

Congratulations! You’ve just caused the most earth-shattering orgasm of her life, and now she’s reeling.

I’m here to let you know that at this point in the love making process, you need to be prepared for anything.

Look — having such an intense, out-of-this-world orgasm experience can cause women to react in different ways. She might laugh. She might cry. She might want to hug you until she falls asleep. She might want your hands on her, or she might want space.

When it comes to squirting, I’ve seen different women have different reactions.

15, Proven Sex Techniques by the Experts

After reading this, you finally understand what causes a squirting orgasm in real life so you can stop trying to blindly follow what you see in porn. Now, you can stop being confused when it doesn’t work.

Now, you can finally take your sex life to the next level and stand out as the best lover she’s ever had.

16, Achieve Orgasmic Perfection. Dive Deeper and Learn More About EXACTLY How to Make Her Squirt.

This article was a bare-bones guide to the wild and wonderful world of female ejaculate, but there are certain things this article didn’t have time to cover.

So if you keep trying to make your woman squirt but still haven’t been able to achieve this paragon of orgasmic perfection, and if you REALLY want to give your woman the best orgasm of her life so she wants to have MORE sex with you, be sure to check out Make Her Squirt: The Female Ejaculation Blueprint to learn step-by-step exactly HOW to make a woman squirt.

About Caitlin V

Caitlin is the creator of the Come When You Want Method for gaining ejaculatory control (without any pills or creams), “Legendary Lover”, a master course in unlocking the female orgasm, and the Female Ejaculation Blueprint.

Caitlin has been featured on a myriad of publications, including the likes of Healthline, Shape, Popsugar, OprahMag, and Bustle. She has made appearances on How to Talk to Girls with TrippAdvice, Marni Kinrys’s Ask Women, Dr. Cat Meyer’s “Eat.Play.Sex” podcast, Spark Joy Podcast, and many more.

She has shared her knowledge and expertise with audiences at TEDx Youth at Wrigleyville, the Super Tasty Show with Karen Yates, The Academy of Event Medicine, Soho House, and at Pechakucha Night Chicago.

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